Thursday, 28 May 2020

Family present and past


My daughter arranged for this card to be sent to us and on the reverse side is a lovely personal message. I've put it on the fridge door so each day I'll be reminded that she's thinking about us and wants to see us as much as we want to see her. We'd give anything to be able to give each other a big hug but of course it's not possible yet and she is not allowed to travel into Wales from England. I'd give anything to walk with her two greyhounds again but of course it's not possible. We've just had a nice long chat on the phone and we keep in touch often but obviously it's not the same as seeing her in person. Our son sends emails but he has a busy life in London and we worry about him and the job he does and we'd love to see him and our daughter-in-law again soon.


I've been trying to keep my mind off the treatment I am about to undertake. So late last evening I posted hubby's fourth attempt at a DNA test after the previous three tests failed to produce  a result and thankfully the post box is only a very short walk from our home. I had sent off for the free replacement test kit many weeks ago but it has sat unopened on our dining table.  I haven't had any interest in doing the family research for at least two months, I've tried a couple of times but I haven't been able to concentrate for one reason or another, studying records and documents needs full attention.  Then yesterday I suddenly decided to activate the test kit and hubby provided his saliva sample although he says it will definitely be the last time if this one fails again.  I'd spent an hour or so looking at some records of a third cousin from four generations ago who'd emigrated to the USA in the the 1890s at the age I am now and as sometimes happens I stumbled upon something interesting that needs further research. If I can keep up my present enthusiasm this will keep me occupied for the next few months, so fingers crossed.


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  1. From Ann via Bloglovin'

    Fingers crossed the 4th test will come up with something. May be one of these days I will join the Ancestry site and look back at family history - I know more about my maternal grans side, there are relatives still in Sussex, named Burrell at Knepp Castle, it would really good to find out more though...one day. take care.

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    1. We think hubby's saliva sample may be affected by his medication, mine worked first time and he does nothing different from what I did.
      They occasionally have free weekends on the Ancestry site so it would be good for you to watch out for those and give it a try. It's a really addictive pastime.

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  2. Fingers crossed that hubby's fourth test will work this time. I've been meaning to ask if you'd done any more research recently as you haven't mentioned it for a while. Losing the enthusiasm for it is understandable in the circumstances but maybe if you're in the mood to take it up again it will give you something to focus on.

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    1. I do hope it'll be fourth time lucky :) It took me a while to recover from the surgery Eunice, I've had such a painful right arm like you wouldn't believe and they told me it's nerve damage and is to be expected. My arm pit is still numb but the pain has almost gone now. I've been so tired too and I suppose I'm beginning to feel like I can get my head around the research again. It'll be good to get back to it if I can.

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  3. His tests "don't work".... Hmmmmmmmmmmmm.... Are you *sure* he is not an Alien??????? -giggggles- After all, we Earthlings have DNA. But I guess, an Alien would not. Sooooooooooooo..... >,-))))

    -ducking, running, and hiding-

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    1. I'm sure he's all human but now you've given me something to think hard about :)

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  4. Just had to write that last comment!!!!

    Please forgive me!!!!!

    -grin-


    πŸŒ±πŸŒΈπŸŒ±πŸ’—πŸŒ±πŸŒΈπŸŒ±

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    1. It's all good fun wisps, I don't mind at all :)

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  5. OK, back to reality. Sweet refrig hug.

    We are lucky, that we see our 2 sons, regularly. One, over the back fence, and the other, when he brings foods, he can get, at the store he goes to. Must be hard, to be cut off, from one's children, due to distance and etc.

    Oh I hope the ancestry drive, will stick with you! Maybe just try, to keep it going, even when it is a bit of a push.<---No, I am not giving advice!!!!!

    Just lots of gentle hugs...

    πŸŒ±πŸŒΈπŸŒ±πŸ’—πŸŒ±πŸŒΈπŸŒ±

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    1. It is so hard not being able to see family, one of the hardest parts of this lockdown. Many people are making huge sacrifices to keep others safe and protect our NHS which is why I am so annoyed with our government rule makers who break the rules themselves!
      I have enjoyed building my family tree and it's such a worthwhile pastime, I really want to get back to it now.

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  6. Hope the 4th test works & wondering what you may have stumbled upon. Not seeing our children is hard & luckily our daughter in Oz is the other side of Melbourne & we got to see her when the 1st lot of restrictions came about. Both our boys are interstate. Please have a restful weekend, take care, stay safe & huggles.

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    1. I'm really hoping the fourth test works.
      Well I think I figured out the family puzzle after much searching. My distant cousin Patience married in 1855 and had two children but sadly both died as babies. She and her husband separated and are on the 1861 census living in different households. By 1871 my cousin is on the census with a different man whose name she takes and has two more living children. Well I couldn't find a marriage nor the registered births of these two children. I still haven't found a marriage but I found the births of the two children registered to her legal husband so presumably the man she lives the rest of her life with adopted them. The eldest child marries and emigrates to the USA with her husband but leaves behind their child with her younger sister, my cousin and her "husband" and they all emigrate to the USA to join them shortly afterwards. I find the death records of my cousin and her "husband" and their gravestone. There's another twist now but difficult to explain so bear with me... There are some living relatives in the USA with family trees. As my cousins "husband" was also married to someone else they assume on the 1900 American census my cousin's name Patience must be the middle name of his legal wife Elizabeth. I've seen the gravestone on the Find a Grave website which the living relatives mustn't have seen and I'm pondering whether or not to contact them. You did ask :) This just shows how much concentration and delving into records it sometimes takes to find the truth but it's absolutely fascinating.

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  7. I like your hug. I was lucky enough to be sent one very similar. It's a lovely reminder to know we have people who care about us, even is they cannot be with us just now. X

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    1. The postcard hug was a lovely surprise and nice to know you had a similar one too. Not being able to see those we love must surely be the most difficult part of the lockdown. Our Wales First Minister will announce the easing of restrictions today but sadly it's not going to include travelling.

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  8. It's so hard not being able to see our loved ones. I've no idea when we'll get to see Daniel again, I'm very thankful that Eleanor is still living with us. She got to see her boyfriend yesterday for the first time since the 8th of March, still it's very hard for them having to keep their distance. My dad's back in hospital again and he's not allowed any visitors. Fingers crossed that the DNA test works this time, it will take you on a whole new journey if it does.

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    1. The lockdown rules are so hard for so many people and for so many different reasons. Sorry to hear that your Dad is in hospital and not being able to visit will be so hard for him and for you. I hope he gets well soon.
      I'm going to have to shield for months no doubt as my chemotherapy sessions start this week.
      I'm hoping hubby's DNA test produces a result this time but if not then enough's enough.

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